Exercise & Language Instructor Fitness journey ENDO's Walk on !

What I should keep in mind always, beyond the framework of wellness coaching  - calmness, mindfulness, empathy, which is a respectful understanding of your talking partner's circumstance.

1) To refrain from explaining too much
2) To use a silent moment as necessary
3) To be a good and active listener
4) Non-violent communication

長々と説明しすぎないこと
必要に応じて、沈黙が大切な場合もある
自分がしゃべりすぎるよりも、よい聞き役であること

These are what is neccesary/and lacking to me.
これらが自分に欠けている点だと思う。

One of important points in human relations would be to understand what is not being said. In other words, to read between lines, of course it is not so easy as to say, because, psychological and emotional responses can largely differ from parson to person, or depending on a situation. That is why the concept of wellness coaching puts a lot of emphasis on generative moments. And seeing from the other side, it means human relations are made up of a premise saying that they are very fragile and easily breakable in its nature. This is especially important in intercultural relations, I guess.  

人間関係やコミュニケーションで大切なことは、言葉で表現されていない部分をどう理解するか？ということだと思う。行間を読むというか。「日本文化は言葉少なを良しとする文化だから、相手の本当の気持ちを察することが大切、欧米人はものごとをハッキリ言う」とよくいわれるけど、やっぱり、外国人でも「察する」ことが大切なのは同じだと最近つくづく思う。

ウェルネス・コーチングでは「Generative moment」（相手と心の通い合う瞬間）をいかに創り出すか、ということを非常に重要視しているのですが、逆に言えば、人と人の関係は、それが仕事上のものでも、あるいは友人や恋人との関係でも、本質的には、非常にもろく壊れやすいものという前提の上で成り立っているということだと思います。

「言外を読む」って簡単なことではないですよね。

When people learn something new, some people prefer learning by reading some study materials (Print learners), some people prefer seeing illustrations, video clips ... etc (Visual learners), some people prefer listening some audiotape or things like that (Aural learners), and some people learn best by verbal communication such as asking questions to his/her instructor, exchanging ideas with other class members ... etc (Verbal learners). Like this, each person's preferred learning style and mode are various. This is one of topics I'm interested in recently.

When you teach/instruct something to others, coach approach (empathetic and supportive teaching method) and expert approach(technical and informative approach), these two methods should be the both sides of a coin, like the concept of Yin & Yung.
This is an ideal of my fitness and language learning and instruction.

Accumulation of small success can lead to increase in self-confidence.

Assuming that you set up a goal to increase your current performance level by 25 %, and if you have achieved it, your confidence level increase by 1 point.

If you set up a goal to improve your current performance level 5 %, and achieved it, your confidence level will increase by 5 points.

It's important to continue to establish trust & rapport in each and every coaching session. Trust & rapport are not earned in a single moment. They are earned or lost during every moment of coaching sessions. If coaches are hurry to " get down to business ", trust & rapport will be compromised or lost. Coaches need to set aside the time to have a relaxed-and relaxing-presence with clients. Even when appointments are scheduled back to back, it is important to slow down, be completely present, and savor every moment with each client.

One of important points for those who are engaging in teaching/instructing profession is setting a comfortable pace of learning for participants.

I had been looking for some appropriate English word for Japanese expression " Ikigai ", and I came across a word that just matches it in an exam prep document for behavior modification. That phrase is " a sense of meaning and purpose in life ".
Have a good day today as well, guys !

When learning to walk, infants fall many times.
These are not failures, but essential lessons that help them learn how to walk. At times, setbacks are an essential part of the change process.